As you think about your life just now how many choices do you feel you have?
It’s a simple fact that the more choices you feel you have the more influence you will feel you have over your life. It will feel, as much as it can, as if your life is in your control. It’s simply up to you to choose where to go.
So, I suppose what I’m saying is, if you feel out of control of your life at the moment the chances are your answer to that first question was either none or very few. But that’s not true.
It is all too easy to fall into a pattern of blame. Pointing fingers out looking to find someone to take responsibility for how you currently feel but to blame other people for how you feel and your current state of affairs gets you absolutely nowhere. I’m not arguing that, in certain cases, it may be true that other people’s actions have had a direct affect on where you are just now however how does pointing the finger at them and telling the world that it was all their fault actually help you?
I’ll give it to you straight. It doesn’t.
Responsibility is a bitch. It is sometimes hard to accept, it never leaves you and sometimes it feels like the last thing you want…but it’s yours all the same.
You simply need to realise that the only person you have the power to change is you and pointing the finger at everyone else expecting them to change is going to leave you with a long wait!
Realise that in those moments when it feels like you have no choice all you are doing is choosing not to notice the choices you actually have. So even when you are not choosing, you’re choosing.
As I said, responsibility is a bitch, isn’t it?
Make good choices. Have the power to change yourself.