What is it that makes it so difficult for some of us to speak about what causes us pain? I find people all the time who find speaking about the things that trouble them almost a physical effort.
Look, the things that hurt you only hurt you because, inside your mind with no perspective, they have become magnified, amplified and distorted beyond reality. Inside your mind there is no reality boundary, the usual ‘laws’ don’t apply. That means you have permission to make it worse than it actually is.
Speaking about it, even writing it down, puts that reality boundary back round it again.
As an example, have you ever experienced that thing where you catch yourself telling a story to someone and, even as you tell your version of events, you know the words you speak are a totally distorted view of what actually happened?
It’s time for you to re establish your reality boundary. And, I promise, the first step is to speak. It’s never as bad as you think and yes, you might cry, you might even sob, but once its gone, and everything is back in perspective, your life will never be the same again. As I said, if you can’t find a person, find a piece of paper. Either will do.
Honesty sets you free. Start with yourself.