7 Rules of Life – 5. To Love is to be happy with
Let’s boil life down to it’s most simple form. Everything you do and everything you don’t do is governed by 2 simple forces, Pleasure and Pain. It is as simple as that.
These two forces guide our lives every day pushing us away from the painful and, technically speaking, towards the pleasurable. But that’s not really how it happens is it?
For many of us what happens is we are pushed away from the really painful towards the slightly less painful. The pleasure aspect never really comes into it. Our lives become a dizzying cycle of running away hoping that some day our white knight on his majestic steed will ride in and save the day (or, for the blokes, we’ll just find the answer and be able to fix it and everything will seem ok again!).
The thing is this whole cycle has a simple solution. And it starts with you. Are you ready? Really ready?
To find true happiness you must begin with yourself. The endless search for the solution or the white knight is a signal to your own heart that you don’t actually believe enough in yourself to pick yourself up and fight for your own life. You can’t even love yourself, how can you expect anyone else to?
Love is the root of all happiness. When you can truly look yourself in the mirror and respect and love yourself you have the key to happiness. It doesn’t need any magic book, any learned guru, any life changing course…it just needs you to look in the mirror, accept yourself totally for who you are, where you are and what you are doing and think, to yourself, those 3 words…I LOVE YOU.
The moment you say that, and really, really mean it, you have found happiness my friend. Go practise. If you leak from your eyes the first couple of times that’s ok!! You’ll get used to it by Thursday 🙂